Kaafi Family Travels

         The Keep-Quiet-and-Do-It-Alone Myth is the myth I decided to write about. I didn't know that it would hit me hard when it related so much to not only my marriage but my culture. I have to say that I was highly uneducated the the realm of marriage, and sex education, and how a relationship is supposed to function through hardship and triumph. I thought I was prepared when in reality it was harder than planned. I didn't think Consumer Marriage was real, I was mesmerized by what I may have witnessed and what potentially could have happened. I knew that it was another trap set by Satan to challenge our lives. " Marriage brings greater possibilities for happiness than does any other human relationship."   This talk by Elder Russell M. Nelson called "Nurturing Marriage" helped me to understand where I could improve myself within my role.  1. Doctrinal Foundation - " Marriage was intended by the Lord to endure beyond physical death. His plan offers ...

  In Chapter 4, we learned about taking time for your marriage. I can remember a time when I felt most insecure and it included being a wife of an oilfield employee where time was sacrificed because my husband was away for weeks at a time. It was interesting to know that human nature tests the way we feel about our loved ones and the need for constant companionship. I know that I feel a certain for my husband and most of the time I have to be in fight mode. I have to fight off both sides of our families and their constant requests as well as fight for the survival of my marriage. " the most common one is that the woman is the pursuer for more time together and the man the distancer." This excerpt is true, I felt like I was the only one making the effort. It wasn't until after we found intimacy with one another that we realized how important our relationship was to us. After ten-plus years we found ourselves in smoothing our arguments and making time for one another. This ...

     Anger plays a huge role in how a relationship elevates or declines. I know all too well how anger limits what we do and how we react. In this class, I am able to understand how to act when it comes to emotion and how to move forward in my interactions and feelings about it.  “Cease your anger, and sullenness of temper. … Do not get so angry that you cannot pray. …”  This week we learned about how to deal with Anger and a new technique called The Speaker Listener technique. The quote I shared is for me to reflect upon the purpose of anger and how it can assist me in my marriage as well as the relationships I hold.  "A cunning part of his strategy is to dissociate anger from agency, making us believe that we are victims of an emotion that we cannot control."   Satan is working to break down the family one at a time and he finds ways of dividing it within a marriage and egos start to break down unnecessary lines and boundaries. It is important t...

(Redondo Beach Pier, CA) Our family traveled this week to Los Angeles, CA to be there when my father inlaw arrives back from overseas as well as attend their village Tefisi Reunion. It was 3 days long and we got to attend part of it, as well as celebrate our 18th anniversary. We were married August 2nd, 2005 and we've made it over the hurdles of 10 years and we come up to our 20th anniversary in 2025. I find that we are the happiest and we aim for supporting one another in completing both of our education and would like to continue to start a family as healthy as we can and do our best to fulfill our dreams. I had to juggle my studies this week and make sure that I completed my classes and enjoy our trip.  I thought I understood the difference between Complaint and Criticism. I guess when you put it into perspective in terms of marriage. I can see that when I have a disagreement with my husband that it is important how I address my frustrations. When my husband and I were to disagr...

  I am grateful to be a student. This week is number two and we’ve been able to ponder - marriage myths, and a discussion topic on what is the key for successful marriage. Last week we are able to read about what we need in a marriage and write about the origin of the family. I found it enlightening to think about what we know versus the experiences we have faced. Every one in our class comes from different perspectives. There is a few who are single and a few that are married in different parts of their lives. I fall into the category of past the ten year mark but almost to twenty years. I think that it takes two individuals who are willing to compromise, forgive and be patient.  In the readings we read about chapters 1-2. We learned about the myths that are out there. I found it interesting that there is a perspective to what we think and know about marriage. The good and bad and the stupid. I say this because attitudes and maturity play hand in hand with what is important f...